If you’re navigating life with God and facing questions along the way, you’re in good company. We all need help sometimes! This is a safe space to bring your honest questions about life, faith, and what Scripture says.
I definitely won’t have all the answers, but because we have the Word of Truth and the Spirit of Truth to guide us, we can go to God with confidence and faith that He is eager to lead us into all the truth.
While not every answer will be immediate or clear, we can trust that God reveals what we need in His perfect timing. Some things may remain mysteries known only to Him, as Deuteronomy 29:29 reminds us: “The secret things belong to the Lord.”
No question is too big, too small, or too complicated for God. He’s not intimidated by our doubts or struggles. In fact, He invites us to seek, ask, and knock (Matthew 7:7).
You’re welcome to submit your question with your name and email—or stay anonymous if you prefer. Either way, this is a safe space to ask, seek His answers in Scripture, and grow in faith together. We’ll trust Him to meet us right where we are.
I’ll do my best to get back to you as soon as I can! Sometimes it might take a little longer because I want to give you a thoughtful, Scripture-based response. Thanks for your patience—know that I’m praying over your question in the meantime!”
Question:
“I keep falling back into the same bad patterns, even when I really want to follow God. Sometimes it feels like I’m stuck in this cycle—temptation, failure, shame, repeat. How do I stop this once and for all? I feel like I’ve ruined God’s plans for me because I can’t seem to get it right.”
Answer:
First of all, take a deep breath and hear me when I say this: You are not too far gone, you haven’t blown it, and God has not changed His mind about you.
I get it because I’ve been there. Seriously. I know what it’s like to wake up with the best intentions—praying for strength, feeling determined that this time will be different—only to fall back into that same old struggle by lunchtime. Then there’s the spiral: the regret, the shame, the “Why can’t I just get it together? What’s wrong with me?”
Here’s the hard truth I had to face: I couldn’t do it on my own. And neither can you.
For years, I tried to “white-knuckle” my way through my struggles, thinking that if I just tried harder, prayed harder, or made more rules for myself, I’d eventually break free. But that never worked for me. I always ended up exhausted, frustrated, and right back at square one.
The turning point for me was realizing that real change doesn’t happen by willpower—it happens by God’s power. It’s about learning to lean on the Holy Spirit in those moments, to stop fighting in your own strength and start yielding to His strength. I know that sounds spiritual and abstract, but here’s what it looked like for me in real life:
When I was in the middle of my struggle (and trust me, mine was messy), I had this cycle. I’d hear God’s voice whispering, “Why are you doing this to yourself? You know this isn’t what you want,” and yet I’d still keep going. I’d ignore that voice and push forward toward the thing that promised to make me feel good—even though I knew it wouldn’t last, and I’d end up feeling even worse afterward.
The cycle seemed endless. Until it broke.
Not all at once, not in some big miraculous moment, but inch by inch, step by step, God began teaching me how to fight differently. I started catching myself sooner—sometimes right in the middle of the bad decision. And when I did, instead of giving in, I’d pray this simple prayer: “God, I can’t do this, but You can. Help me now.” Sometimes I’d have to literally run out of the room or toss whatever was tempting me into the trash and pour salt on it just to make sure I couldn’t go back and dig it out later (yes, I’ve done that).
I also started forcing myself to look away from the thing and focus on God instead. For me, that meant turning on worship music, opening the Bible, or even just walking outside and praying out loud: “This is a lie. This thing that looks so good right now is a trap. It’s not worth it.”
It didn’t happen overnight, but something began to shift. I started getting up off the floor faster. At first, I’d only resist for a few minutes, but then it stretched to an hour, a day, and eventually longer. I didn’t feel like I was winning at first, but God was rewiring my heart, little by little.
